AUTISM : Why A Knock At The Door , Phone Calls & Letters Are Distressing.... ( ADULT WITH AUTISM )

                          

Hello everyone , I hope everyone is well and has had a lovely Christmas and New year. Today I wanted to talked about certain situations being an adult with autism that I personally struggle with. 

                               

The Knock At The Door

Even as an adult I still need structure and routine , so If somebody knocks at my front who I am not expecting or I don't know is coming can often cause me to have a panic attack because I am thrown off guard. It can become a stressful situation that I wasn't prepared for , whether it is a family member who just turns up to say hello or a stranger trying to sell something, my mind and body goes into a state of distress and I end up hiding on the floor because I become that scared of who is at the door. Obviously having to young children means that sometimes the person knocking at the door can hear them especially when my eldest shouts " mummy who is at the door ". Which often means they will continue to keep knocking louder which causes more distress for me as I am sensitive to sound. No I don't answer the door because usually by this point I am in tears because I have got that overwhelmed and stressed out at the thought of who it could be. I have had bad experiences that have led me to be more anxious around  ' A knock at the door ' such as someone actually walking into my home and throwing a parcel across my living room. Last year my husband and I was in a bad financial position and debt collectors came knocking at the door and I hid my children and myself until they went which seemed like forever. I have had people look through my kitchen window thinking nobody was home (this has happened a handful of times ). They are experiences that haven't contributed well to my anxiety that is already there about opening the front door. I am aware it could be something as simple as the postman dropping a parcel off because next door are not in, but when you are not expecting anyone it sends you into a torment of anxiety and distress. The stress doesn't take you an hour to recover , it takes days to feel relaxed again.


                            

                                                     


Phone Calls 

Phone calls is another thing I personally find difficult , especially as there tends to be more information given to you over the phone. Understanding information is a big part of what I struggle with , I struggle to process information and I often need it  breaking down for me in order for me to understand it. Like 'the knock at the door ' phone calls cause a lot of anxiety and distress for me , so I often tend to avoid phone calls or my husband talks on my behalf if needed. In some circumstances I do have to speak on the phone to confirm my identity etc which I find incredibly overwhelming and difficult , so I often avoid those situations as much as possible. There was one occasion I had to speak on the phone and I didn't understand what they was asking me , I apologized and said I was autistic and asked if they could explain to me in a different way and they put the phone down on me. I felt stupid and useless that I didn't understand what they was asking me. Another reason which causes anxiety around speaking on the phone is that I can't actually see that person who is on the other end of the phones face. Even though I struggle with eye contact in person not being able to see a persons face or put the voice to a persons face is very hard to comprehend and can feel very confusing for me.  





                             




Letters/ Mail 

Letters are something else I really struggle with . Again a lot of information can be put into letters and I can't always make sense or break down what the information is saying. I do often have to ask my mum for help regarding anything letter wise to make sure everything is correct and I don't misunderstand anything. My husband has a form of dyslexia so he can struggle with letters to at times. So I do often always ask my mum for advice. Sometimes I can interpret little details different which could mean the whole letter could end up meaning something completely different to what it is intended and often I always think the worst of a situation. Usually when I think it is something bad I start getting upset and then it is a horrible circle of anxiety again. 






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A Child With Autism Then Becomes An Adult With Autism ( School Struggles )

           

                       

Hello everybody! I hope everyone is well and has had a good week. I know I haven't posted in a while , I have been wiped out with morning sickness for the past few months. Yes that's right my husband and I are expecting baby number 3! It was a bit of a shock to say the least, but we have finally got our head around having another baby. 

   



                 
        Today's blog post I wanted to write about being an adult with autism. I have seen alot of parents recently post awareness about there child having autism especially since schools have started back. People seem to forget that children with autism grow up to be an adult with autism , those struggles that children face in school don't just fade away. I left high school a decade ago and I struggled a lot through both primary school and high school. The difficulties a faced then , I still face now. Although as adult you learn what works for you , what situation are going to overwhelm you or cause distress to you. As a child it is very confusing , you don't understand why you feel or see things a certain way which can cause so much anxiety for a child. Anxiety that a child is to young to understand why they feel that way and they can't explain it because they don't yet have the words to describe those feelings. 
         Sensory overload and anxiety have a big link for those with autism. As an adult you learn what kind of sensory overload can be distressing to you , so you take certain precautions to help you in that situation. For example noise is a big issue for me , so if I had to put myself in a situation where there is going to be a lot of noise , I would take some earphones to block out some of the noise or I would research the place to know my surroundings and see if I could find a quieter place. When you are a child with autism you don't have that understanding of why everything feels so loud , overwhelming and physically painful . If you are parent of a child with autism you might find your child tells you they have earache and although it might not be an infection earache , for your child it will feel that way because of how sensitive they are to sound. Unfortunately it still feels that way for an adult , but you learn what sounds your more sensitive too. 
    Does your child tell you to stop shouting at them? Even though you are not! The slightest change in the tone of your voice can make someone with autism feel like you are shouting at them. This happens a lot with my husband and he has to take his time to explain he wasn't shouting at me although it feels like he is. This can be extremely hard for children especially in a school environment it can cause a lot of stress and anxiety. 
     It is very important that a child with autism has support throughout school life , that teachers and other professional are made aware of an individuals struggles. This will help a child with autism have a less daunting school experience. Unfortunately I didn't have support throughout school life despite my mum fighting my corner for me to get the right support , I never got it. School failed me and many others my age , this has effected me as an adult as I haven't yet been able to go into a work role. I went back education on my own doing long distance learning and was able to pass all my courses but during school years I ended up missing a lot of school due to a lack of support and severe anxiety.  Work is something I would love to do , however been classed as" disabled"  has it limitation. Sometimes that is all people see you as and they think you are incapable of being able to do things just because you struggle more than others. I haven't been given the opportunity to be in a work role in fact I once got told I wasn't mentally well enough to work , which really knocked my confidence. 
      I am so happy that in the past few years more awareness of what autism is has been made aware. Hopefully this help children more , when I was a child there wasn't much knowledge or education on the subject , so its great to see people speak and stand up for those with autism. Autism is such a big spectrum that people don't even realise how big it is.  We all struggle in different ways and no two people with autism are the same , we may have similarities but we are all unique and different to each other , just like individuals without autism. 





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2018 A Year That Tested My Mental Health ( Month By Month Diary)

Hello everyone , I hope you had a lovely Christmas and New year and not having holiday blues too much. Lets just say my Christmas has not been smooth sailing , couple of trips to the hospital and doctors for my family , I don't want to go into details as this is going to be a long blog post anyway. 
       Today's blog post is going to be about 2018 and my struggles with mental health , personal and family struggles too.


                   




January 2018 -  In early January my lip randomly swelled up within seconds it was the size of a golf ball and I was taken into hospital after ringing 111 ( In the UK it is a number you ring before 999 for advice on what to do ) the 111 number rang an ambulance and the paramedics gave me adrenaline and my lip went down and I was taken into hospital. The doctors told me it looked like I had an allergic reaction to something , to this day I still have no idea what. I didn't eat anything or touch anything different than I normally would that day , I was just sat on the sofa at home when it happened , fingers crossed it doesn't happen again. Unfortunately that experience has caused a year of anxiety around food , every meal since then I have had an anxiety attack during meal times. It has become draining and tiring , I am fed up and want it to stop. If you have followed my blog for awhile you will know I have been battling an eating disorder for a long time , which now this anxiety towards has made that worse and my attitude towards food worse. It is a horrible feeling being scared to eat something and feeling like you are reacting or going to react to the food you are eating. I constantly feel like my lips are swelling everytime I eat and I have had enough of feeling this way. 
          At the end of January of 2018 I was 6 months pregnant with my Daughter Luna-Rose and I started to collapse during my pregnancy, I was so scared the first time I collapsed I was on my own with my eldest daughter who is now 2 years old. I passed a couple of times when I was pregnant with my eldest Daisie-Mae so I knew when my body didnt feel right. Because of that familiarity I rang my mum straight away on video chat said I didnt feel right made sure Daisie-Mae was safe and then passed out across my bedroom floor. My hearing went and everything went black , I am not sure how long I was passed out for it felt like eternity but my mum stay on the phone with me until I came around and made sure Daisie-Mae was safe. Daisie- Mae sensed something was wrong with mummy so she sat on my bed and stayed there until I came around , she was rubbing my back when I woke up telling me you are okay mummy. I tried to carry on and thought I would be okay , about a week later a collapsed in a shop over the pram and an Ambulance was rang and my husband had to come from work to get me , the paramedics checked everything over and I said I didn't want to go to hospital so my husband Alex took me to my mum's house and he went back to work. I didn't feel safe anymore and it certainly wasn't safe for my daughter anymore.

February 2018 - From February until the end of April I was at her house 6 days a week or I was with someone everyday. The passing out got worse , at one point in February I collapsed in the car and my mum thought I was having a seizure because of my movements and I didn't respond for a period of time. I felt exhausted by this point , I would have to sleep for a few hours after I would collapse I thought so drained and I really don't know how I would of coped without my mum. My birthday was in February and it was an awful time that morning I already unloved and unwanted now I look back I just feel like a brat. I got upset because my husband didnt get me a card or one of our daughter and that is all I wanted was a card of my daughter saying happy birthday. Unfortunately finance hasn't been on our side in 2018 which meant my husband and I didn't offered have spare money at the end of month. That is why looking back I feel like a brat about it. I just felt so unloved and unwanted at the time.  My mum cheered me up though by taking me to a craft fair , both my mum and I are crafters we love making and creating things so that cheered me up in the afternoon. Although been autistic I found the craft fair very overwhelming and need time out a few times, I still enjoyed it. 

March 2018 - By March the collapsing was almost everyday and I was struggling to walk around at this point. I had a growth scan in mid march and during the scan I collapsed again and the sonographer ran out to get a nurse , my mum was outside with Daisie-Mae as children were not allowed in the room. I was wheeled off to the pregnancy triage and within 20 minutes I was admitted to the wards. I was in hospital for 3 days I hated been apart from my little girl I just wanted to go home. During the 3 months I was constantly telling my doctor and community midwife about collapsing which they kept saying they would look into , by this point I was in hospital before anything was looked at. I was anemic , well I still am  but my iron was very low and it had made me very ill , my heart rate was very fast and I had low blood pressure but that is normal for me anyway to have low blood pressure. I was referred to a cardiologist while I was in hospital and I had to have lots of blood tests , I was put on a drip because I was dehydrated and I was waiting for a blood transfusion for a couple of days and in the end they didn't give me one and just prescribed a lot of iron tablets. My mum was looking after Daisie-Mae in the day while I was in hospital as my husband had to work. By the third day Alex said he would look after Daisie-Mae and he asked his boss if it was okay. My mum was really tired as she has health problems herself that cause her to be in pain everyday so she was exhausted by this point so we told her to stay in bed. Alex got to the hospital with Daisie-Mae and told me his boss was already pressuring him to go into and he explain he had to look after his daughter. His boss seemed to expected him to just leave Daisie-Mae in the hospital. Alex and I don't have alot of family around us to help so we couldn't ask anyone at this point. So I asked the doctor to discharge me despite been unwell. The doctor did as I asked and within 5 minutes of walking through my front door , Alex's boss messaged him to come into work immediately. My husband got a tattoo apprenticeship in December 2017 so in January 2018 he started his apprenticeship and went part time at his full time job. Since he went part time , certain people including his boss started to treat him differently , they started pressuring him and bullying him. My husband started to loose who he is was in March , he came home unhappy , sad and would hardly say anything to me. It broke my heart to see him that way and I couldn't help fix it. 

April 2018 - In April I was still collapsing but not as frequent. I was still scared of been on my own but I began to feel a little better and felt more mobile. I only had 6 weeks left of my pregnancy at this point so I began to enjoy it a little more. 
        In April my husband and I began to get handwritten letters threatening us. This person threaten to take our children away from us. This person had already been harassing us for over year but they was being smart about it and using other people to do it. This person is not allowed access to our children for very good reasons and as parents we protect our children. This person threaten us because they can't see our children , so instead tried threaten us and even used legal companies making up lies to try and contact us. This person the year before had contacted social services and made up a lie that Alex and I was giving certain substances to our eldest daughter Daisie-Mae and abusing her. This was a lie and was found out to be a lie. Luckily the health visitors knew about this person and what they was capable off. It absolutely broke Alex and I. The threats where now becoming annoying more than anything , we knew by this point they would never get there hands on our children. 
       At the end of April , my Grandparents came home for the arrival of Luna-Rose. Which took a weight of mine and my mum's shoulders as we had been pretty much living in each others pockets for the past few months. 


May 2018 - May came and we celebrated the arrival of Luna-Rose on the 11th of may. It was an easy birth compared to Daisie-Mae I was surprised how quick I recovered and I was at home within less than 24 hours of giving birth. I felt great , tired but great. Daisie-Mae was overwhelmed with emotion when she first saw Luna-Rose she couldn't believe  there was a baby and then after 10 minutes of tears she was cuddling and kissing her. 
      Alex had an agreement with his boss that he could have 2 weeks holiday after the birth of Luna-Rose because paternity leave he would loss alot more money. We was already struggle money wise. Of course a few days after Luna was born his boss started pressuring him to go in. Alex was getting frustrated , anxious and upset , after a long talk he quit his job. No job is worth your mental health and sanity . I was not prepared to watch my husband's mental get any worse because of that job. 
       We enjoyed having some family time for a couple of weeks and Alex went full time at the tattoo shop. I began to feel more myself again and was able to stay on my own again .


June 2018 - Apart from wedding planning stress , June was an nice easy month. We celebrated Daisie-Mae's 2nd birthday and we had lots of family days out. The weather was lovely during June , so lots of walks in the evening trying to shift the extra few pounds to fit in my wedding dress in July. I ordered my dress before I found out I was Pregnant , so after birth I was like AHHHHHH I need to loose weight now I have 11 weeks to fit in a size 6 dress!!! I went alot bigger than expected during pregnancy with Luna-rose than with Daisie-Mae. My 1st pregnancy I didn't show at all , so I did not expect to be as big as I was with Luna-Rose. 
At the end of June I had my cardiologist appointment which I was referred too in March. Believe it or not I am still waiting for the results. 



July 2018 - My emotions all over the place in early July. Excited , nervous , stressed , overwhelmed!!! 
       22nd of July!!!! Wedding day has arrived .... Ahhh the excited , the butterflies , the nerves!!! It was a fabulous day surrounded by the people we love the most. For the first time in my life I actually felt beautiful stood there in my wedding dress saying my vows. We loved every minute of our wedding day. 
         Nothing goes plain sailing with us though does it! 2 days after the wedding a car drove into the side of us and then a few weeks later a letter came from the police saying that the driver had reported my husband to the police saying he was dangerous driving... Yet they was the one who drove into us and then had a phone in there hand taking pictures of our car as they drove off.
     3 days after the wedding just as we nipped into town to grab a few bits before we went to the lakes for our honeymoon and we came home to pick up our cases. We took Daisie-Mae out the car and she was just starring into thin air.... I had Luna-Rose and we went inside the house. Alex put Daisie-Mae on the sofa and she started having a seizure. I have never been so scared in my life to see my baby that way. I rang an ambulance and gave information they asked for. By this point my baby was blue and not responding , Alex was rubbing her back , trying really hard to get her to respond. She was unconscious but slowing breathing. During this time I rang my mum to come and get Luna-Rose when I had finished on the phone to the ambulance service. After 25 minutes still no ambulance and my baby was still unconscious. I forgot to mention that when we pulled up to our house the car was leaking petrol really bad we noticed it while we was in town. So when my mum pulled up I ran to her and said we needed to get to the hospital now. Daisie-Mae was in my arms and I got in the car and she drove to the hospital. We pulled up at the ambulance bit and screamed for help , no one would help so I ran into the emergency entrance and a nurse came running to help me and took us in a bay. Daisie-Mae started to wake up and she was crying for me , her speech was slurred and I started panicking if she was okay. I couldn't understand what had happened to my baby. My mum parked up and Alex made his way to the hospital with Luna-Rose. My mum had phoned my grandma to help come and get Luna , So they took Luna-Rose back to my mum's and she stay there while Alex and I stay with Daisie-Mae. They did lots of tests on Daisie-Mae , she even had a CT scan as she was showing no signs of temperature so they ruled out a Febrile seizure. The doctors and nurses where baffled , they kept her under observation for 24 hours and said they wouldn't investigate any further until she has another seizure , luckily she has not had one since. We ended up going on our honeymoon trip to the lakes in September instead but cut our trip short in the end due to my anxiety.

August 2018 -  Money troubles started to hit us and started causing arguments between Alex and I. He was earning anything to pay the bills. He didn't want me too work , or even if I did my family don't seem to think I will cope. He was the one looking after our family and we was not been looked after. We wasn't even entitle to anything from the benefits or help. We had no money coming in bills weren't getting paid , we was struggling to pay for food. 



September 2018 - September came and money was still a big issue and arguments was still happening. By September my Anxiety had got worse. I was experiencing symptoms I have never experinced before. I was shaking , having hot sweats I felt like I couldn't breathe , I felt my face was swelling , I would feel dizzy. I began to have anxiety attacks everyday and become emotional. I didn't understand what was going on. I didn't want to go back on tablets but I knew I could't carry on this way not with two children. I went to the doctors to start back on anti-depressants , I was prescribed venafluxine which I had for years before having children , I stopped when I was pregnant with my first child. I knew they suited me , I was anxious about taken them. Food , touch and medication was still a big issue for me from what happened in January has still stuck with me and caused anxiety. Anyway not wanting to feel this way anymore motivated me to take them. However I reacted to the medication and my husband had to ring an ambulance.My husband  play football on Sundays and we was at football at the time I reacted too it. My face and body felt like it was on fire , I felt like I couldn't breathe , my sight was going funny. I felt like I was going to pass out , I couldn't understand what was happening. I was checked over at the hospital it turns out while I was experiencing all the side effects with venafluxine I also had an anxiety attack and my body couldn't handle it and went all over the place. I thought I would be the safest with the tablet because of having it for years previously. This made my anxiety worse and by the end of September I felt suicidal and started to self harm. 

October 2018 -  During October my husband had to stay at home more often because I didn't want to be here anymore. I started to cut myself on my arms and I wanted to end my life. My anxiety attacks had become several times a day , I was scared of myself . I went back to the doctors and they referred me to the mental health team and we aimed to go down therapy route. I was then referred to a psychologist who specialist in autism. Been autistic therapy can be hard to communicate so it is easier to have someone who understand and is patience with you. I haven't had good experiences in the past down to lack of communicate and understanding. Alex and I began to argue over everything and anything which became stressful on both parts. 


November 2018 -  I Started therapy and I was back to been at my mum's most days, I felt scared of myself. Alex and I had spoke about separating after Christmas , i felt like a failure. 4 months into marriage and already talking about separating. 
        After all the stress I didn't even think about that time of month and then a realized I was really late. I tried to brush it of  but within a few days I was having symptoms of morning sickness and I just knew I was pregnant. Thousands of thoughts was going through my head , how can I be pregnant again ? we have been using condoms. I can't be. But I just knew I was. I took a test which confirmed it and I went to the doctors. I was about 6 weeks pregnant.... 

December 2018 - Unfortunately I was not able to continue with the pregnancy due to medical reasons and I had surgery at 8 weeks pregnant on the 12th of December . I have spoke about saying goodbye to our angel on my previous post I posted before Christmas. 
       My grandparents came home on the day I had my surgery , they live in turkey , so they flew back for Christmas. They was there to help me aswell as my mum through a difficult time. My Grandparents knew about our difficult time with money and kindly gifted Alex and I some money so we was able to buy our children some presents for Christmas , I am forever grateful for there kindness , they didn't need to help us. 
The sadness of saying to our baby actually brought Alex and I together again. We became closer and agreed to fight for each other. 
    Christmas was a lovely day with Family I couldn't ask for anything better. Boxing day I ended up in hospital , loosing a lot of blood over the past weeks in December after surgery made my iron levels drop again and went funny again like when I was pregnant. So I spend boxing day in hospital and the next few days resting. 
       Finishing the year with a bang they say..... 
Nothing goes smoothly for us does it ha! On new years eve that morning while we was getting dressed , Daisie-Mae climb up onto our cupboard in our bedroom and manged to reach some of Alex's art work solution which is for blending colours  together it has some acid in it. It was an unopened bottle and she managed to get a child proof lid off and drank some of it. It is a clear solution so I think she thought it was a bottle of water. Alex and I had our backs turned for  a minute while we picking out our clothes and she had done this! Within seconds she started choking and coughing and thought she had pinched some chocolate of the side and choked on it. Then I smelt and saw the solution on the side with the cap off  , we rang an ambulance as she started to turn a greyish colour and was still coughing. They told us to lay her on her side. You could smell the solution on her breath it was so strong and smelt like nail polish remover. The ambulance service said if we could get her to the hospital to get her there straight away because it was busy in the area and an ambulance wouldn't get there for another 20 minutes. So we put her in the car and drove to the hospital, we rang my mum on the way and she was going to meet us there to get Luna-Rose , once again comes to the rescue. I ran into the children's A&E and asked for help , they got a nurse and took us into a bay straight away  , by this time she had stopped coughing and was spaced out but awake. She had tests done including a chest x-ray and everything came back fine internally. She had to be monitored for several hours just in case something happened but she was fine and was back to herself a few days later. Children don't half put the fear in you!





So that was my 2018 and it has really pushed my mental health this year ,don't get me wrong there were some special and happy moments in 2018 like the birth of Luna-Rose and getting married. But it has been a very hard year and I am sure many other people will have been tested in 2018. I hope 2019 is a better year and my anxiety gets better so I can be the best mum I can be. 








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My Sensory Palette ( Living With Autism )

Autism is something many people don't understand , you cant just ask a person like myself who has Autism what is it like to have Autism? Autism is something you are born with , it is something you will have your whole life , but usually will be diagnosed when a person starts to develop or develops in a way society would class as " not normal ." A person with Autism has never been anyone else but themselves so how can they explain what it is like to have Autism when they have never been anyone else to compare it to being someone without Autism. 

          However we can tell you what things we find difficult in day to day life. SENSORY is a big factor for someone with Autism which can make life hard work and a struggle. The simplest things for someone without Autism could be one of the most hardest things for someone with Autism. Every individual is different and we are all sensitive to sensory but we will not all be sensitive to the exact same thing. 

My Sensory Palette

Sound -  Alarms , Lawn mowers , tapping , Scratching noises are some examples I find sensitive to hear. I find it difficult to process sound when someone is talking to me and process the information but may be able to hear the tiniest pin drop on the floor. Depending on the tone of someones voice I can sometimes feel like someone is shouting at me , when they could be just talking normally because the sound can be to loud for me to listen too. When there is too much sound going on in a room it can be come psychically painful and can hurt my ears to listen too.

Sight - It is quite common for people with Autism to be visual impaired and need glasses like myself. However there is many other things that I am sensitive too when it comes to sight. Ever since I was little I have found it difficult to look at the colours orange and yellow as I find it painful  to visually  look at. Which means when the sun is out I tend to get lots of headaches , migraines and feeling faint as the outside is too bright for me , this feeling can also occur when indoor lightening is too bright and can cause sight sensitivity. Which is why I use corner lamps around the house rather than ceiling lights. 

Touch - For someone with Autism Touch is a common sensitivity that we will experience when it comes to sensory. The feeling of dry skin , seatbelts , velvet , wood are some examples of things I find difficult to touch. Sometimes when people touch me , tap me or hug me I feel uncomfortable and it can make me very jumpy. 

Taste - I am not as sensitive to taste as such, however if you have read my blog for awhile now you will know I have  had anorexia for a long time and my food needs to be in a certain order and can be very restrictive at times. Taste wise I find it difficult to cope with alternatives. For example I regularly drink pepsi max ,  if they had none left in the shop I would find it difficult to switch to diet coke or even diet pepsi. 

Smell -  Meat smells have always made me gag ( no offence to anyone who eats meat and it is not a judgement on what someone eats) the smell I just don't like and can sometimes can make me feel sickly. I can often smell different smells before others around me especially smells that progress.

For someone with Autism sensory overload can often cause the individual to be anxious and make them want to isolate themselves because everything becomes to much to process and can be very tiring and stressful for the individual. It is important  for the individual and loved ones to know the individuals triggers of what will overwhelm them and try and avoid sensory overload. 

Thank you for reading :) 

Love  Ava 

xoxo

       

10 Annoying Things Which Are Said To Someone With Autism

 1. So what is it like being Autistic ?

( Because clearly someone with Autism just woke up one day and decided they are going to be Autistic for that day ? ) 

2. You look" normal " , you don't look like you have Autism.

( What is a person with Autism suppose to look like? )  

3. When someone is introducing you to someone and says " Oh she is Autistic so she wont speak very much. 

( Really? Don't even say my name first or say who I am ) 

4. You must be really good at Maths. 

( Not everyone with Autism is a mini Albert Einstein ) 

5. You can have sex right? 

( This is one of the most stupidest comments I have heard , Autism does not affect the capability of  your lady or man parts having sex with someone , however the communication skills of psychically meeting someone to have sex is a completely different story. ) 

6. " My friend's sister is autistic , you seem nothing like her." 

( Not everyone with Autism is the same! We are our own person and we all have different traits .) 

7. " Why aren't you looking at me when I am talking to you?"

( Did you know that for someone with Autism that eye contact can be very difficult and can actually sometimes be psychically painful for a person like myself who is more sensitive with sight .) 

8. Can you work? People automatically think you are incapable of being able to work or hold onto a job. 

( Many people with Autism can work , however there isn't always enough support for those with autism in employment.)

9. Do you have feelings? 

( Of course we have bloody feelings , just because we find it harder to express ourselves doesn't mean we don't have feelings.)

10. But you are not a child , how can you have Autism? 

( Because we clearly have been an adult all our lives...) 

Love Ava

xoxo